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Management Training Seminar, A Free Lunch and Rush Limbaugh

August 16, 2007 | By | 41 Comments

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No Free Lunch

Milton Friedman,

Robert A. Heinlein “There Ain’t No Such Thing As A Free Lunch,” perhaps first said by science fiction writer Heinlein and made popular by Nobel Laureate Friedman. Often shortened to TANSTAAFL.

And you won’t find one here either.

But.

Your Business Blogger has a number of 60-second commercials running in the DC market pitching a luncheon and the Managing Management Time(tm) seminars.

If you are in the greater Washington, DC area, here’s a free lunch. Almost.

Trade me your time and talent.

Listen to my commercial and leave me a comment on what you think about the marketing/sales pitch. You get a FREE lunch on the 23rd in DC or the 24th in Baltimore, save 25 bucks.

I get feedback.

Click here for the audio. And if you catch it on the air please let me know how it sounds.

Grade me on verbiage, volume, background music, cadence, sales hook.

The commercial is running for a week.

The ad is running tomorrow 17 August Friday at 12:30 pm (during Rush Limbaugh)

4:49 pm, and

6:49pm

Let me know what you think. And get lunch.

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The seminar is for the benefit of the Susan B. Anthony List.

Thank you (foot)notes:

No Free Lunch–and No Free Health Care, Either

TANSTAAFL is the name of a snack bar in the Pierce dormitory of the University of Chicago. The name references the fact that the use of the term was popularized by Milton Friedman, the Nobel Prize–winning former University of Chicago professor.

Restrictions apply. Supply is limited. A $25 donation will be made to the Susan B. Anthony List for each commenter. And the FREE lunch.

MEDIA ALERT: Charmaine on CNN Headline News Debating Marriage Trends

August 8, 2007 | By | One Comment

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Charmaine on an earlier

marriage debate on CBS Charmaine will appear on CNN’s Headline News this afternoon to discuss the latest trends on marriage and co-habitation.

Are shack-ups good for women? Good for children?

Tune in at 5pm and let us know what you think. Hit time is 5:30 live.

She will be on the other side of a married couple. Who are swingers.

Not to be confused with swinging both ways.

But that the swinging married couple have jimmied the (wed) lock, and are not monogamous.

So they have an ‘open marriage’ and a number of sexual partners.

At least the ‘marriage’ has a man and a woman…

It is not known if Charmaine’s next segment will be with a monogamous homosexual couple.

So Your Business Blogger — ever alert to the immediacy of news hooks — asks Charmaine, What happened today? Jenna moved in with a boyfriend? Chelsea moved out from her live-in…?

Nope, she says. It’s August.

Wtih congress in recess, there is very, very little a-going on.

It’s August in Your Nation’s Capitol.

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Thank you (foot)notes:

Note that CNN HeadLine News and CNN are on different cable channels.

Editor’s Choice: Must Reads

August 3, 2007 | By | No Comments

Worthwhile Reads:

If this is our new guide, we’re lost by Gina Dalfonzo with excellent commentary on Dr. Drew Pinsky.

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Fear, Uncertainty, Doubt Learn about FUD: fear, uncertainty and doubt, at Why Sell Is Still a Four Letter Word by Charles H. Green — brought to us at no charge by Carnival of Sales & Management Success, hosted by Brad Trnavsky

Leading by Example in a World of Copy Cats By Michelle Cramer via Carnival of Leadership Development hosted by The Engaging Brand blog with Anna Farmery, Business Coach and Speaker

And be sure to visit the Carnival of Image & Influence | Vol. 2 hosted by Steve Silvers. He graciously points to my article What is the best tactic to get a referral?

But Steve minimized the best referral in one of the better posts lately — which would be his. See references to Steve Silvers’ quotes in Forbes and from an article in the Associated Press, 2 Wal-Mart Critics Leave Group, By MARCUS KABEL,

Corporate reputation expert Steven Silvers said the move may signal that the union campaigns are reaching an end, with little new ground to cover after criticizing Wal-Mart for two years.

“At some point an activist group has to ask itself if it’s preaching to the choir,” said Silvers, from the Denver-based consulting company GBSM Inc.

“What they’re doing is going from rhetoric to relevance,” Silvers said. He said Blank and Kofinis can have more impact on Wal-Mart from the national platform of the presidential race.

Steve would be a blogger with reach.

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Thank you (foot)notes:

STEVEN SILVERS is a Principal at GBSM, Inc., 600 17th Street, Suite 2020 South in Denver, CO 80202. Go visit www.gbsm.com

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Women in Combat Debate: Should Women Fight?

July 25, 2007 | By | 14 Comments

My good friend Bob Miller has a compelling article on women in combat that deserves a wide audience.

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Female sniper,

United States Air Force In September of last year, the Naval Institute Proceedings commemorated thirty years of sex-integration at the U.S. Naval Academy with a Commentary by Sharon Disher, USNA ’80, entitled “Women CAN Fight.” As a member of the first sex-integrated Naval Academy class, Disher wrote in conspicuous contradiction of former Marine combat hero, and now Senator, James Webb’s (USNA ‘ 68] then-troublesome 1979 Washingtonian Magazine essay: “Women Can’t Fight.”

Well of course women CAN fight. In Iraq, US military women have fought and still do fight bravely and selflessly. These armed daughters, sisters, wives and mothers can also become wounded, maimed, captured, abused and killed. In fact one hears military women, in particular, declaring their willingness to “die for my country,” words far less often heard from men.

And women can kill; there’s no doubt about it.

But please, put aside for a moment the tendency to rationalize, trivialize, scoff or scorn a cautionary perspective in order to reflect with candor on what this unarguably historic innovation of the “woman as warrior” may signify about a phenomenal cultural trajectory.

The stakes are high.

Read his entire article at the jump.

Robert H. Miller, CAPT, USN ret

Hope For America

PO Box 1007

Willow Grove, PA 19090

hfa@aol.com

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MEDIA ALERT: Charmaine Quoted in The Washington Post on Teen Sex

July 23, 2007 | By | No Comments

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Charmaine at Princeton University

April, 2007

Photo by Wes Shim Charmaine is quoted in Teen Sex Rates Stop Falling, Data Show, By Rob Stein, a Washington Post Staff Writer on Sunday, July 22, 2007; Page A01. Stein begins,

“The long decline in sexual activity among U.S. teenagers, hailed as one of the nation’s most important social and public health successes, appears to have stalled.


After decreasing steadily and significantly for more than a decade, the percentage of teenagers having intercourse began to plateau in 2001 and has failed to budge since then, despite the intensified focus in recent years on encouraging sexual abstinence, according to new analyses of data from a large federal survey.”

Charmaine’s quote is not on A-1 at the beginning of the story, but on the continuation deep in A-16 something. But Stein did quote her accurately, and yes, fairly,

“Teenagers today live in an MTV-driven culture and are bombarded by sexual messages that say it is normative for them to get involved sexually,” said Charmaine Yoest of the Family Research Council. “We need a message that sexual experimentation as a teenager is unhealthy.”

The number one reason that teens have sex is not the need for intimacy, or the fun, or the good time, or the passion.

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Tobacco Free Kids It’s peer pressure.

The belief that every one is doing it.

And not everyone is. Just like smoking.

Proper parental supervision is more healthy than the teen’s peers.

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Thank you (foot)notes:

Abstinence programs should be encouraged in the same manner as teen smoking campaigns. See Tobacco Free Kids. For more information on Teens and smoking, please contact our good friend, Danny McGoldrick, Vice President, Research at TobaccoFreeKids.

See more on the marketing — watch for negatives: The Marketing Bimbos.

Dr. Drew Pinsky at the Independent Women’s Forum

July 18, 2007 | By | 4 Comments

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Dr. Drew Pinsky from Discovery Health Channel

(By Jonathan Alcorn For The Washington Post)

Dr. Drew Pinsky recently gave a talk for the Independent Women’s Forum in the Rayburn Building in Washington, DC.

The audience was some four dozen young women.

The interns who actually run the government in Your Nation’s Capital.

Pinsky advised the young nubile college aged co-eds that they have three options with sex:

A) Drink Juice ‘em up and go. Liquor is quicker — for girls. Beer Goggles — for men.

B) Steady Joined at the hip. Live together shack-up. Trial marriage.

C) Hook-up Friends with benefits. Also known as f**k buddies.

He mentions no fourth option.

I would, if asked, submit Bruce Cameron’s rules. And if you read the rules, the Alert Reader would well understand why I am not retained as a speaker for the IWF.

And Pinsky is.

As Dana Milbank from The Washington Post reports,

This is not your mother’s conservative movement…

Pinsky is an imperfect spokesman for the religious right; he once gave out free condoms as a promotion for his Web site.

“By the way, sometimes it’s just fun,” Pinsky said of youthful sex. “I’m not saying, ‘Oh, my God, we have to have a funeral march.’ Sometimes it’s fun. It’s not a bad thing.”

The WaPo is wrong. (This is not news.) The Independent Women’s Forum makes no claim to be faith based. IWF takes no position on abortion. IWF makes no moral judgments on sex.

The Washington Times column Inside the Beltway’s by John McCaslin, reads,

[Pinsky]described the college social environment as “unnaturally intense,” as it gives women three basic options: to engage in an “intoxicated physical encounter with no commitment” (a hook-up), to begin a “joined at the hip” relationship or to agree to a “friends with benefits” arrangement. The women in the audience agreed that none of these options is ideal.

While leaving the larger moral and cultural implications up for consideration, Dr. Pinsky advocated personal responsibility, integrity and most importantly, an openness for dialogue.

This is code-talk psycho-babble for “sex only after three dates.” Something “The [other] Rules” would advocate.

Except that in any of these scenarios, the girl is — used, drunk, infected, pregnant.

Or worse.

She gets a broken heart.

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Thank you (foot)notes:

Your Business Blogger’s wife, Charmaine, has served on the IWF Advisory Board. She does not endorse the recommendations of Dr. Drew Pinsky.

Form Bruce Cameron’s Rules for Dating My Daughter,

Rule Four:

I’m sure you’ve been told that in today’s world, sex without using a “barrier method” of some kind can kill you. Let me elaborate, when it comes to sex, I am the barrier, and I will kill you.

Rule Six:

If you make her cry, I make you cry.

The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right (Hardcover)

by Ellen Fein (Author), Sherrie Schneider.

Michelle D. Bernard, President and CEO of the Independent Women’s Forum says,

The reviews are in! This year’s Sex and Dating Conference for Capitol Hill interns was the best ever. Not only did we garner an unprecedented amount of media coverage- including a major piece on page A2 of The Washington Post-we felt that the interns who showed up were eager for a serious discussion of sex and dating mores in a safe atmosphere…

At IWF, …We felt that, without offering judgments, Dr. Drew Pinsky, led a thoughtful-and fun-discussion of campus mores. He repeatedly asked if hooking up is such a good idea, why is it that students find they must be intoxicated to hook up?

Dr. Drew Pinsky’s philosophy needs adult supervision. People, moving down the hyway of life, need real guidance, real guardrails.

See Dr. Drew comes to Washington.

Raising Children: Roots and Wings

June 18, 2007 | By | No Comments

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The Yankees, Arlington, Virginia

The Dude, first row on right.

The Baby Boo at his lower right

Your Business Blogger has never hit a home run. Oh, there have been some interesting paydays — No, I mean a baseball homerun.

I have had a horrific number of strike outs, on and off the field. And it hurts.

But, only one thing hurts more.

To watch your boy strike out.

The Dude was playing for the Yankees, the local little league. Saturday before last, his team was in the District playoffs for the championship. Charmaine and I and the Penta-posse were all in attendance.

Please forgive the day in the life reflection, but we have always thought that life should not be too easy for kids — that anything worth having has a fence around it. (Like a base ball diamond.) And they should learn to deal with overcoming obstacles.

So we are forever designing small age-appropriate challenges to stretch the young ones thinking, reasoning, and physical dexterity.

Alert Readers will remember that we allow our children restricted use of power tools to teach self-reliance. And to get some work done around here.

I wanted start early and teach our infant children about the harsh world outside their cribs… by placing barbed wire along the top rail. Charmaine did not think this amusing.

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Courtesy: Rick Lee Photo
But even with out the barbed wire, the Penta-Posse has learned to exhibit grace under pressure. And, we pray, to develop character — to be useful citizens as John Adams said of his offspring.

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The Dude swings for the fences So The Dude had struck out.

But like most things in life, it was not his last time at bat. He had another chance.

He came to the plate and confidently stood his ground in the batter’s box. Faced the pitch.

And swung and hit. Sending the ball over the fence ending the game.

A home run.

There is nothing better to have your son beat you at your own game.

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Thank you (foot)notes:

Credit to Don Suber for citation for Rick Lee Photo.

See Rich Galen’s similar experience of having a son surpass.

Full Disclosure: No barbed wire is used in our Management Training classes. Unless requested.

MEDIA ALERT: Charmaine on MSNBC on Marital Counseling and Parental Leave

May 21, 2007 | By | One Comment

Tomorrow, Tuesday 22 May, Charmaine will be on MSNBC to debate parental leave. Alert Readers will remember that this was the subject of her doctoral dissertation. Hit times will be 9:30 and 10:00 in the morning. Please tune in and let us know what you think.

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Barry Lynn

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Separation of Church and State Charmaine Yoest, appeared on MSNBC on May 17th, 2007 to discuss a move in Texas to encourage marriage counseling for couples seeking a marriage license. She was up against Rev. Barry Lynn. Forgive the click thru on the Family Research Council site.

Being a good spouse.

And again here Should the Government Interfere with Marriage?

The third segment pits Charmaine up against our libertarian friends at the CATO Institute, David Boaz, Executive Vice President.

An Anniversary

May 4, 2007 | By | 9 Comments

The first week in every month of May Your Business Blogger has two anniversaries to celebrate.

Two constants every man needs.

His car.

His woman.

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Jack and Charmaine 1990 (Order may not be important to some.)

Charmaine and I are moving into our 18th year of marriage toward that death do us part part.

The other anniversary is a milestone of two decades: 20 years.

Alert Readers are thinking, I know Jack — how did he do it?

How did he survive all those years?

Without a coffee cup holder…?

The Germans do not believe that people should drive and drink…coffee. Ergo, no coffee cup holder in that old model.

So the ride has been a series of spilled hot fluids. And I would do it again.

Kisses Sweeter Than Wine – Andy Williams, Peter Paul & Mary

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20 years; one owner

Your Business Blogger and The Dude

Financial Expert Larry Burkett believes that a man should own but one car and run that car ’til the wheels fall off then repair and repeat.

Replacing is poor stewardship of resources.

It is also Biblical and is based on the Babe Bargain: A man should be the husband of but one wife.

Replacing is poor stewardship of resources.

A car and a girl. What more could a guy want?

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The Penta-Posse

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Thank you (foot)notes:

Larry Burkett continues,

Let’s face it. The majority of new automobile sales in America are made because of the buyers’ wants, not needs. Often they are just tired of their cars; they look old and out of date, or they need repairs to put them back into top condition, or their neighbors or coworkers have acquired new cars.

Lyrics to KISSES SWEETER THAN WINE at the jump. My favorite version is by Jackson Browne and Bonnie Raitt.

In May of 1987 Your Business Blogger bought a new car from American Service Center in Arlington, Virginia from former Redskin football player Joe Tereshinski.

My two investments; my two May anniversaries.

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Charmaine on FOX News Sunday: Day Care and its effect on children — the data

April 24, 2007 | By | 5 Comments

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FOX News Charmaine recently appeared on FOX News Sunday to discuss the data and wisdom and public policy of day care.

She is debating a professional who loves day care.

Charmaine reviews the data that confirms the mother’s intuition that the more time a mother spends with her child, the better the child will be. The better the world will be.

Moms know best. Who knew?

Child care liberal feminist activists take the other side. So that women can make money. Because money, to feminists, is the most important thing in the world…besides sex. And power.

(Money, Sex, Power. Liberal feminists would do well to remember a Democratic President who warned against this trifecta: Harry Truman.

Three things ruin a man

power, money, and women.

I never wanted power.

I never had any money,


and the only woman in my life is up at the house right now.

He also dropped the Atomic Bomb…my kind of guy.)

Anyway. Charmaine’s short clip is available here. Please forgive the extra click thru on the Family Research Council site.

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Thank you (foot)notes:

See: Emptying the Nest: Does Day Care Work?

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Lauren Bacall and Harry Truman

As a child, Truman would wake at 5am to practice Chopin.

The piano player can get the girl, as I tell my sons,

Practice chop-sticks and get the chicks. Also see: Women’s Work: A journalist warns women that once they leave the career track, they may never get back on, in The Washington Post.